Time

Time is more important than money. This is a true statement. You may have the finances to have an affair, but you also need to be able to get away for a while with your lover. You need to be able to go away from home for a few hours or a few days. This one I got nailed.

First, I travel a lot on business. So hopping a plane for a far flung city for a few days is not really a problem. And the thing is that vacation spots are usually cheaper during the middle of the week. So one can stretch those valuable affair dollars.

One does need to be careful of the paper trail. The frequent flyers club record where you’ve been, and this will show up on some statement somewhere. The hotel affinity clubs do the same. It helps to have all these statements coming to the office rather than the house. But remember the websites also have this information. I also need to worry about my secretary. She usually keeps tabs on where I am and she does talk with the wife from time to time. It would be unfortunate to have the wife call the secretary trying to find where I was, and have the secretary say I was off on vacation.

A lie should be as close to the truth as possible. Mixing business with pleasure is probably the way to go. Fly to London on business, and have a fling there. Fly to a conference in Miami, and then stop for a couple days in the Virgin Islands. Follow a meeting in Boston with a couple of days of skiing in Vermont. I can make this work.

Not everyone can get away for sleep-overs. Getting away for a few hours can work, too. One does need to be careful about, well… how should I put this delicately, ahem, the scent of a woman. Love making does have an air to it. And her perfumes and soaps can stay with you, and on your clothes, when you get home – leading to a suspicious partner. You need to engage in a hobby which allows you to go away from home for a few hours and come back either showered, or reasonably hopping right into the shower. Go to a gym. Do a workout 2 times a week. You’ll keep your body in shape. You might meet someone new. And you’ll have the ability to leave the house for a few hours and come back freshly showered without drawing suspicion on yourself.

I kayak. That works well here in the northwest – lots of good water for paddling. Two or three times a week I go out for a couple hours and come back all sweaty and jump right into the shower on returning home. We also have a full locker room and gym facility at the office. Occasionally, I will clean up at the office after paddling. In either case, going away for a few hours and coming back cleaned up would not be unusual at all.

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